2009 April archive at Successful Mind Power

Archive for April, 2009

Apr

Life’s Challenges

By Trixie 0 Comments

Categories: MindPower

I find it fascinating that when I have a challenge in my life, I will pick up a book and I am suddenly reading about my challenge, or I will hear a song that relates to what I am going through. Is this just coincidence or are they those little signs that we have all heard about? Hmmm makes you wonder.

We all have challenges

Everyone has challenges in their life. It’s the way we look at them, and the way we handle those situations. I believe it is the struggle we must endure to gain the strength needed to break through the barriers. With every victory comes the strength we need to overcome the obstacles and move forward. Some people seem to endure bigger challenges in life than others. I believe that we are given challenges that we can handle. You often wonder how some people cope with their situations in life, I often hear myself say, “I don’t think I could deal with that” but we don’t know what strength lies within us, until the time comes to face the challenge. The harder the struggle, the sweeter the victory or another way to put it - no test, no rewards.

overcoming-obstacles

Enduring these obstacles, challenges, situations, hurdles, whatever you want to call them (however, do not refer to them as problems) is not always pleasant. With it often comes self doubt, anxiety and feelings of worthlessness etc. So how do you deal with these emotions, without reaching for something to dull the pain - because the answer is definitely not in the bottom of the bottle. You can:

Ask yourself empowering questions.
What’s good about this situation?
What lesson am I learning?
Imagine how my life will be when I break through this barrier!!

Take some time out

I also find that changing the scene for a while is beneficial. If you’re like me (a female) then a bit of retail therapy always soothes the soul - I don’t know why we love shopping, but it certainly works, so why question it!! Go fishing, camping, running, walking, go see a movie, talk to friends (about other things). Take your mind off the situation and give yourself some time out, you’ll feel renewed energy to continue your quest for victory.

You know those little messages I keep reading and hearing? I just heard my stars on the radio: “You must learn to think successfully, before you can be successful” I really think someone is definitely trying to tell me something and help me out here!!

Onwards and Upwards

Trixie

Apr

Your Perceptions

By Trixie 2 Comments

Categories: MindPower

Any events that occur, things that people say or do are all perceived differently by us. If we can change our perceptions of these events, especially if they are unfavourable, we can change our outlook on life, and e volve to new higher levels.

How many times have you said something you thought was funny, and the other person took it as an insult. It’s their perception of the situation - they didn’t see it as funny and you are left feeling bad, sometimes it can be the end of a friendship. However, we can change the way we perceive events and things will begin to change when you see things from a different angle.

Give others the benefit of the doubt

I have learnt how to see things differently and give others the benefit of the doubt, before condemning their behaviour. For example, say a friend was running late or was supposed to call you, and they failed to do so. The first reaction you may have is one of anger. You may think, how rude, or don’t they value our friendship - I wouldn’t do that to them. Or you could perceive it differently. You could think, maybe their phone battery went flat, perhaps they were held up in traffic, or a situation occurred to make them lose track of time. I have found that there is usually a very good reason and it’s not always as sinister as you might first think.

Sun's Rays through the clouds

I learnt this lesson in a very painful way, however it was really a blessing in disguise, because the person involved did me a huge favour and was instrumental in teaching me a valuable life lesson - we are no longer friends because of it, and that’s ok. Some people only come into our lives to teach us things, once the lesson is learnt, they seem to disappear, ever notice that! I have often been thankful to this person, for teaching me this lesson.

What’s good about the situation?

The trick is to try and see the good in the situation. This can work in the worst cases of all. Kurek Ashley tell’s us in his book “How would Love Respond” how he was able to change his perception of a helicopter crash, in which 5 of his good fiends were killed. Once he changed his perception from that of tragedy to see what was good about the crash, by asking himself “What’s good about this situation” he underwent a massive transformation and turned his life around.

So, I decided to try this myself.

My father was killed when I was 17 months old. I never got to know him and I have always perceived this as tragic. So I asked myself “What was good about my father’s death?” Hmmm tough one. My first thought’s were: My parents marriage wasn’t heading in a good direction, so maybe I was spared a miserable life of fights in the family home, and I know my dad was a heavy drinker, so maybe it would have gotten worse and maybe even violent. I finally had the thought that made me feel at peace and that was: maybe by losing him early on and living a life of confusion and pain has prompted me to become the highest version of myself and I know my dad is guiding me along the way. This made me smile, knowing that I can see some good in the situation and can feel his presence.

Actually while I wrote this, a couple of songs came on the radio, that had lyrics that were directly related to what I was writing about - a signal perhaps that I am on the right path now. Full steam ahead. Thanks dad.

Onwards and Upwards

Trixie

Apr

Think Positive

By Trixie 4 Comments

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Think Positive Thoughts

It is often said that we need to think positive thoughts and we can pull ourselves from the deep depths of despair. How on earth can it be so simple?

Thoughts

When you are down so far that it doesn’t seem possible to claw your way out of the huge hole you have dug, it feels like a mammoth task. It is so difficult to think straight and see light at the end of the tunnel, let alone thinking positive thoughts - this is the last thing you have on your mind.

Take Responsibility

This is paramount. If you are not prepared to take responsibility for the hole you are sitting in, then you are never going to get out. You may not want to hear that, but I like to think of it this way: If I am responsible for getting myself out of the mess I have made, then I have no-one else to thank except myself, and this is a wonderfully liberating feeling. I can feel proud that I did it myself, and the truth is that no-one except you can do it anyway. Once you decide that you are on your way up, it’s actually a lot easier than you think it will be, obstacles don’t appear as large.

Write down your Goals

There is going to be some sort of emotional pain along the way, but the positive results along the way, make it worth it. The most important thing is to not give up. Have a goal in sight and keep your focus on that goal. My goal was always simply to be happy. I am now well on my way to achieving this goal. Being happy is simply a state of mind, it is not a huge journey that we are on and finally arrive at our destination of happiness. When you decide to be happy, then guess what, you will be - sounds simple, a bit too simple, but there are no great secrets here. It really is that simple.

It’s the same when you decide to quit smoking, or drinking, or overeating etc. Once you make a decision to stop thinking a certain way, it becomes easy. The hard part is making that categorical decision. So how do you do that?

Ask yourself empowering questions

This is the single most important way to begin your journey from the darkness to the light. Ask yourself empowering questions, such as:

How can I make this better?
What’s good about this situation?
What’s been good about my day?
What am I grateful for?

Believe it or not, there is always a positive aspect in every situation, no matter how bad it is. You just have to find it, when you do, you will start to think of things in a very different way.

Onwards and Upwards

Trixie

Apr

Mindset Evolution - Kurek Ashley

By Trixie 3 Comments

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My Evolving Mindset! Thanks to Kurek Ashley

Recently I had the pleasure of meeting an awesome guy called Kurek Ashley. Kurek is a Peak Performance Coach.

Actually I have had the pleasure twice now. We are practically besties. To say Kurek is inspirational is a total understatement. It absolutely stuns me how is where he is today. When you read his book, you will know what I mean, the first few chapters will blow you away.

My quest for happiness.

In my quest for happiness, I’ve read so many self help books, I have lost count. I always thought that if I could just get one thing out of each book, that would make it worthwhile. However when I “stumbled” upon Kurek’s book recently called “How Would Love Respond” , I realised that I was onto something amazing.

I have been reading it non stop as often as possible, and am half way through, already changes are starting to happen, I can feel myself thinking differently. Maybe its got something to do with the change in season - we all feel refreshed when a new season begins, I realise that it is time for me to change, a new season in my life. Time for my mindset to evolve again.

I have to say, I feel a certain sadness as I know a part of my old personality is dying, but I also feel ecstatic as I realise a new beginning unfolding.

Kurek teaches that it isnt enough to think positively, you must take action. If you want things to change, then you must take action to make those hanges. Seems pretty easy really, why didnt I think of that? We can all get into the state of being lazy and procrastinating - however if you are really serious about getting the life you always knew that you deserved, then take action, massive action.

You can see a 12 part video interview below, between Kurek and Sean Rasmussen (another fantastic Internet Marketer, who is a personal Mentor of mine)

Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5 , Part 6, Part 7, Part 8, Part 9, Part 10, Part 11, Part 12.